This list won’t make your problems go away, but it can give you the support you need to make it through these challenging times.

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Whether you’re caring for a newborn or an elderly parent, mourning the loss of a loved one or a lost job, hard times can be difficult to navigate. Some days just getting out of bed and taking a shower is a triumph.

If you’re struggling through a difficult week, month, or year, here are nine guidelines to help you get through a hard time.

1: Take Care Of Yourself

When life is in upheaval, it’s incredibly important that you take care…

There’s more to an apology than just saying “sorry.”

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One of the most important elements of maintaining healthy relationships is apologizing. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes, lose our patience, or say things we shouldn’t. But healthy relationship repair and conflict resolution requires apologizing.

And surprisingly, there’s a lot more to an apology than just saying “sorry.”

1: Recognize Your Mistake

We want to be right. Like, all the time. But part of being human is messing up. And healthy relationships require you to recognize your mistakes and weaknesses.

Recognizing your mistakes requires humility, empathy, and self-awareness.

First, you need to be humble enough…

You can’t keep living the same way if you want your life to change.

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If you’re reading this article, odds are you don’t have your shit together. You feel lost, disoriented, and out of control. But now is the time to start taking your life back.

1: Why Do You Need To Get Your Shit Together?

Getting your life back on track is going to take some work. But before you get started, you need to know why you need to get your shit together. This will help you decide which steps to take as well as serve as inspiration when the work gets tough.

Make a list of all…

Having control of your emotions helps you interact with others, overcome life’s challenges, and chase after your goals.

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Let’s face it: we did not grow up in a society with a healthy outlook on emotions. If you ever heard the phrase, “boys don’t cry,” “stop being so dramatic,” or “I’ll give you something to cry about,” you know what I mean.

The Importance Of Emotions

That being said, your emotions are important. Positive emotions tell you when your goals and needs are being met. Negative emotions tell you that something is wrong and your needs and goals are being threatened. …

What you think affects how you feel. And how you feel affects your behavior. Your behavior is ultimately what influences the trajectory of your life.

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When life feels mundane or it seems that nothing you do can change your circumstances, it’s safe to say you’re stuck. If you want to finally break free from this rut, keep reading.

Each step listed in this article is designed to break your normal thinking, feeling, and behavioral patterns. What you think affects how you feel. And how you feel affects your behavior. Your behavior is ultimately what influences the trajectory of your life.

Happy couples don’t fight less than unhappy couples. They simply do conflict resolution and relationship repair better than unhappy couples.

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Conflict was not a thing in my home growing up. Not that it didn’t happen or that it wasn’t there. We just didn’t address it. I grew up in a very religious and very conservative household. And contention was “of the devil.”

If I ever saw my parents fight, it was usually a big explosion. This sounds like the opposite of a “contention-free” home, but I think these big arguments were the result of leaving smaller conflicts unresolved for too…

Being rejected can be difficult to navigate. But don’t let it reframe how you view yourself or your business.

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Let’s face it. The beginning stages of starting a business are never comfortable. You’re spending a lot of time and resources on your little business — time and money you probably don’t have. You’re really putting yourself out there, whether you’re cold calling or begging your social media followers to use your services or even making your own YouTube ads.

You’ve never felt so vulnerable or raw or exposed in your life.

And then the rejections start rolling in.

And it…

Boundaries? In a relationship? That doesn’t make sense. I love this person. And because I love them, there shouldn’t be any boundaries between us…right?

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Healthy relationships are created from strong connections, strong boundaries, and strong self-awareness. We tend to think strong connection with others stems from little to no boundaries. But this is not true.

Strong boundaries define the place where you end and I begin. They allow us to set expectations for how we should be treated. They allow us to hold others accountable if boundaries are crossed and we are mistreated.

We need strong self-awareness to recognize what…

Sleep is an essential part of living a healthy life.

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Sleep is one of the most important contributors to our physical and mental health. When we sleep, several important things happen. Our bodies recover from and repair physical stress. Our minds begin to sort the thoughts, experiences, and learning we did that day. Sleep is so essential, but often so neglected.

In college it seemed like I was invincible. I could pull all nighters. Or function with only 3 hours of sleep and a quick afternoon nap. But, when I had babies, that lifestyle was no longer possible.

After two…

What happiness has your lack of confidence kept you from?

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Most of our regrets in life stem from our lack of confidence. We didn’t ask that person out because we were afraid they’d say ‘no.’ Why would they want to date me anyway? We didn’t try out for the school play because we were afraid of making a fool of ourselves. What if I mess up? We didn’t ask for that promotion we wanted (and deserved) because we were afraid that we weren’t good enough. What if they don’t think I can do this job?

One personal regret I have…

Brindisi Olsen Bravo

Navigating adult life and writing about what I learn. My focuses are personal development, relationships, parenting, and writing.

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