We are creatures of habit and we resist change. But you need to change to get out of this rut.

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Life may seem a little gray. You’re just going through the motions, slowly moving from one day to the next. You’ve tried to switch things up so you can get out of this rut, but nothing seems to work.

If you’re struggling to fight the mundane and make more of your life, here are five reasons why you’re still stuck in a rut.

1: You Do The Same Thing Every Day


Dance allows individuals to recover from stress and navigate mental illnesses

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More than a historically important part of culture, dancing provides a lot of health benefits for dancers. Hidden in our fox trots, jetés and jazz squares are essential elements for positive mental health. By causing both physical and mental changes in dancers, dance allows individuals to recover from stress and navigate mental illnesses.

Good Mental Health Needs To Be Nurtured


Validating your child’s emotions can lead to a healthy, happy life.

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Validating your child’s emotions is very important. Emotions are a healthy part of being human. And managing them well leads to success later on in life.

But often our society shames or belittles people — especially children — for having emotions. Especially when those emotions are negative ones.

“Don’t be such a baby…”

“Boys don’t cry…”

“Are you on your period?”

“You’re being so dramatic…”

“I’ll give you something to cry about…”

But emotions help us navigate our world. Positive emotions tell us when our needs and goals are…


This list won’t make your problems go away, but it can give you the support you need to make it through these challenging times.

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Whether you’re caring for a newborn or an elderly parent, mourning the loss of a loved one or a lost job, hard times can be difficult to navigate. Some days just getting out of bed and taking a shower is a triumph.

If you’re struggling through a difficult week, month, or year, here are nine guidelines to help you get through a hard time.

1: Take Care Of Yourself


There’s more to an apology than just saying “sorry.”

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One of the most important elements of maintaining healthy relationships is apologizing. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes, lose our patience, or say things we shouldn’t. But healthy relationship repair and conflict resolution requires apologizing.

And surprisingly, there’s a lot more to an apology than just saying “sorry.”

1: Recognize Your Mistake

Recognizing your mistakes requires humility, empathy, and self-awareness.

First, you need to be humble enough…


Having control of your emotions helps you interact with others, overcome life’s challenges, and chase after your goals.

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Let’s face it: we did not grow up in a society with a healthy outlook on emotions. If you ever heard the phrase, “boys don’t cry,” “stop being so dramatic,” or “I’ll give you something to cry about,” you know what I mean.

The Importance Of Emotions


What you think affects how you feel. And how you feel affects your behavior. Your behavior is ultimately what influences the trajectory of your life.

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When life feels mundane or it seems that nothing you do can change your circumstances, it’s safe to say you’re stuck. If you want to finally break free from this rut, keep reading.

Each step listed in this article is designed to break your normal thinking, feeling, and behavioral patterns. What you think affects how you feel. And how you feel affects your behavior. Your behavior is ultimately what influences the trajectory of your life.


Happy couples don’t fight less than unhappy couples. They simply do conflict resolution and relationship repair better than unhappy couples.

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Conflict was not a thing in my home growing up. Not that it didn’t happen or that it wasn’t there. We just didn’t address it. I grew up in a very religious and very conservative household. And contention was “of the devil.”

If I ever saw my parents fight, it was usually a big explosion. This sounds like the opposite of a “contention-free” home, but I think these big arguments were the result of leaving smaller conflicts unresolved for too…


Being rejected can be difficult to navigate. But don’t let it reframe how you view yourself or your business.

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Let’s face it. The beginning stages of starting a business are never comfortable. You’re spending a lot of time and resources on your little business — time and money you probably don’t have. You’re really putting yourself out there, whether you’re cold calling or begging your social media followers to use your services or even making your own YouTube ads.

You’ve never felt so vulnerable or raw or exposed in your life.

And then the rejections start rolling in.

And it…


Boundaries? In a relationship? That doesn’t make sense. I love this person. And because I love them, there shouldn’t be any boundaries between us…right?

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Healthy relationships are created from strong connections, strong boundaries, and strong self-awareness. We tend to think strong connection with others stems from little to no boundaries. But this is not true.

Strong boundaries define the place where you end and I begin. They allow us to set expectations for how we should be treated. They allow us to hold others accountable if boundaries are crossed and we are mistreated.

We need strong self-awareness to recognize what…

Brindisi Olsen Bravo

Navigating adult life and writing about what I learn. My focuses are personal development, relationships, parenting, and writing.

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